Well, here we are, another year, another chance to reinvent ourselves. And no, I’m not talking about buying a Peloton or finally learning how to make sourdough bread (though, if you do, please send me a loaf). I’m talking about something bigger: a new mindset.This blog is going to be a little different than the rest. I’m not here to give you a Pinterest-perfect version of life after separation. Spoiler alert: mine wasn’t butterflies, rainbows, and glitter. It was more like duct tape, tears, and a lot of coffee. But here’s the thing, I started this blog because I wanted to be different.I didn’t want to be the person who bashes their ex on social media or turns every podcast episode into a roast session. At one point, you thought this person was good enough to marry, share a Netflix password with, and maybe even create tiny humans together. So why, now, do we act like they’re the villain in a Marvel movie?
The Story That Broke My Heart
There was this girl I knew going through what people love to call a “messy divorce.” And wow, was it messy… mostly because it was all over social media. Every post was like a battle cry: “You go, girl! Make him pay!” And in my heart, I thought, Wait… what?I didn’t get married to get rich. I didn’t have kids to fill my bank account. I just didn’t understand. I knew both of them, they were good people. Her ex? Fantastic dad, hard worker. She? Amazing mom, loving person. So why were they suddenly enemies?And all I could think about was their kids. Old enough to scroll. Old enough to read every word. Imagine seeing your parents tear each other apart online. That’s not just messy, that’s heartbreaking.
Here is the Cold Hard Truth
Divorce doesn’t have to be a war. Sometimes, it just doesn’t work. Sometimes, the healthiest thing you can do for your kids and yourself is to find an alternative. And that alternative doesn’t have to involve hate.So here’s my mantra for 2026: New Year, New Mindset. If I can help even one person realize that neither of you is the enemy, then this blog is worth it. You might feel like the villain for a little while. You might even play the role of “enemy” for a season. But ultimately, peace is possible. And peace? It’s powerful.
Let’s Be Real
We’re all just swimming in the same pool, trying to hold onto the same life raft. None of us are experts. None of us are perfect. But we can choose kindness. We can choose respect. And we can choose to keep the drama off social media. So here’s to Two Homes, One Heart. Here’s to loving without living together. Here’s to raising kids who know that even when things fall apart, love doesn’t have to.
Two Homes One Heart 